Living in Toronto, I find that it is so easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of life. It’s difficult to find time for self-love when you’re busy being a good daughter, friend, employee, coworker, exercising, grocery shopping, meal prepping, budgeting, learning a new skill, reading a new book, keeping on top of your Instagram game, keeping your plants alive, cleaning the kitty litter…
It all gets difficult to balance.
Which is why I think that it is important to remember to stop and re-calibrate yourself once and while.
You can schedule all the things you have to do – but have you taken the time to ensure that all these things are bringing you closer to the life you want to live?
Take a moment to show yourself some self-love. Ask yourself these three questions during a time you’re feeling overwhelmed or lost.
1. Am I spending my time, money and energy on things that matter to me the most?
As mentioned, getting lost in the shuffle of the go-go-go society we have built for ourselves is too easy nowadays. We can lose focus, direction and even a bit of ourselves if we aren’t careful.
Soon, we start living out someone else’s dreams and living up to other people’s expectations rather than our own. Taking the time to audit your life by asking this simple question can help you see which areas are making you feel dope and which areas are making you feel not-so dope.
Perhaps it’s time to show some self-discipline and prioritize activities, outings and people that are propelling you toward your goals and raising your frequencies – rather than ones that are allowing you to indulge in unhealthy habits. Self-discipline is difficult to execute (I would know, as I used to have the willpower of a walnut) – but it is an important form of self-love and achieving balance.
2. Am I being my best self?
This question requires brutal AF honesty. You can lie to the people in your life, you can fake it on social media – but you can’t lie to yourself.
If you truly want to achieve happiness, balance and peace you need to answer this question with no filter. Are you pushing yourself out of your comfort zone? Trying new things? Are you setting goals for yourself and smashing them? Practicing good habits? Learning new skills whenever you can? Are you being genuine, kind and generous to those around you?
Being honest AF with yourself is another form of self-love. And once you start to love yourself, everything gets so much easier.
3. Am I settling in any areas of my life?
This final question can be tricky as sometimes we don’t even know when we are settling for something. This is where meditation and trusting your gut comes into play.
A lot of us settle for jobs we don’t love, partners who are shitty and health that is mediocre. But imagine if you were living a life where you were excited to work at a job that you were crazy about. You woke up beside a partner who you looked at the same way you did when you met them. You felt like you could take on the world both physically and mentally. I’m sure for some that seems like it is unrealistic and impossible, but I promise you, it’s not.
We are the creators of our own realities and we are the ones in the driver’s seat. Are you going to take the easy, boring route that you know is safe, comfortable and requires little to no effort on your part? Or are you going to blast some tunes, put the pedal to the medal and make this the best road trip in the history of road trips?
Sit down, shut up, and listen to what your gut is telling you. Your intuition is the Google Maps of your life. Use it.
These questions seem simple, but they pack a punch. If you choose to not be honest while answering them, you’re only cheating yourself. Take the time to show some self-love and see what you can do to get you to where you want to be.