Becoming aligned with who you’re meant to be is such an interesting and rewarding journey. Those moments in life when you realize you have truly achieved personal growth are a favourite of mine. It gives me confidence and allows me to reflect on what steps I took to achieve it. I then can gain more of an understanding on how I should continue to make decisions.
Everyone experiences growth differently. It could happen quickly, or over an extended period of time. It could happen through tremendous pain or incredible bliss. Achieving personal growth depends where you are in life and how determined you are to learn from your past decisions.
During these past few of years, I’ve experienced exponential change. I feel like every damn day I’m having some sort of epiphany about myself, my life and the world. It’s crazy – but awesome.
I wanted to share with you some of the things I noticed that were going on. Maybe you’ve experienced similar realizations throughout your journey. Or maybe you can turn these into actionable steps to get you closer to being aligned. Whatever the case may be, I’m excited for you.
You are not easily persuaded from your own opinions.
This is something that happens less and less as you become more in-tune with who you are meant to be. You know what you value, you know where you stand on certain topics. There isn’t anyone who can influence you to think differently. You are your own person. And that’s just so lovely.
You don’t partake in things that do not align with your goals and values.
As we grow, our connection to our minds and bodies becomes stronger. We can identify when our guts are trying to tell us something and learn to trust that intuition. From there, we learn what activities, habits and people make us feel dope and which ones make us feel not-so dope.
When we are aligned with who we are we don’t feel self-conscious, anxious or out of place.
Instead, we feel confident, grounded and like we are in the right place at the right time.
If you do experience these feelings of dis-ease, be sure to observe your environment or who you are with at the time. From there, perhaps take the time to audit those variables and see if they are contributing to your unhappiness.
You don’t experience ‘FOMO’ as often.
The first time you don’t feel FOMO when you are expecting to feel FOMO is such a rad experience.
Building from my last point, you just know (in your gut) that the event you’re declining isn’t aligned with you or your goals. Even if it is being sold hard by whoever wants you to come.
Soon it becomes more comfortable to stay home to work on your dreams rather than take part in something that won’t serve you in the long-run.
Your friend group is smaller.
Focusing on the quality of people in your life rather than the number of people in your life is such a crucial step in this journey. You are who you surround yourself with – and that is such an important thing to keep in mind as we grow and develop.
If you want to be a dope individual, hang out with dope individuals. Quality people who share similar ambitions, and people who want to build you up and see you succeed – those are the gems you want in your life.
Place importance on the opinions of these people who appreciate you for you, rather than the opinions of strangers and acquaintances.
Even though it may seem like it – life isn’t a popularity contest. You’ll be much happier surrounded by people who you can be your true self with, rather than ones who don’t really know you.
It’s easier to let go of toxic elements in your life.
The more aligned you are with yourself, the more you are familiar with your values, morals and the overall direction you want to take your journey. It then becomes easier to distinguish what is holding you back – whether that be people, places, jobs or habits. Knowing which elements no longer serve you in a positive way makes it easier to let them go.
Being able to recognize when something or someone is toxic and taking the needed steps to remove it from your life is an act of self-respect and self-love. You are raising your standards to where they need to be to be happier and more successful.
And there you have it. As you can see, these are all things that lend themselves to one another. Being your own person, staying aligned with your goals and surrounding yourself with the right people all go together in becoming the person you are meant to be.
I truly believe the key to living a happy life is trusting and loving the journey to every new chapter. The sooner you realize you are in the driver’s seat, the sooner you will get to your desired destination.
What are some signs of alignment you’ve been experiencing?