It’s been a minute since I last posted. But I’m still here. This disconnect wasn’t planned, but it was necessary.
During this unplanned hiatus I discovered many things. Things about myself, about the world, about my relationships with people and about the direction I want to take my life. I realized that I was becoming too caught up in the “millennial way of thinking,” and that I was losing sight of why I started this platform in the first place. Instead, I focused on the number of likes I was receiving or how many people were viewing my story.
I was comparing myself to others and constantly felt in a state of lack. I realized I wasn’t enjoying creating things for my platforms and that I was always overthinking everything I did (or didn’t do).
Taking this time to sit back and reflect really helped me narrow in on what exactly I want to accomplish with this outlet and rediscover the reasons that brought me here in the first place.
It also helped me realize that I need to take a deep breath and stop giving a shit what other people think.
I know I’m not the only one who has gone (or is going) through something like this. It’s easy to get caught up in society’s popularity contest and lose sight of the fact that we should be celebrating how easy it is to communicate with one another. We should be focusing on using social media as a tool to bring us closer together and learn from one another to be the best version of ourselves.
We’re all addicted to our phones – but it’s important to pull away once and a while, re-center yourself and focus on what makes us feel dope. Here are some simple steps that you can take to form a disconnect (that don’t include you camping out with no cell service or wi-fi).
Take the time to monitor how much time you are spending on social media. Is grabbing your phone the first thing you do in the morning? Do you take your phone out to check Instagram during dinner or while spending time with a friend/family member? Do you come home from work or school and find yourself losing the first hour of your evening to browsing through your newsfeed?
I’m guilty of all. I used this as one of my indicators that it was time to step back and take a hard look at how using social media apps had become an impulsive habit rather than an intended indulgence.
The Moment app is good for this as it shows you how much time in a day you spend on your phone.
When you’re looking through your newsfeeds – how do you feel? Really.
Are you using your social media apps as a tool to learn, to interact or engage?
Or are you comparing yourself to others, feeling bad about yourself or putting other people down?
Are you glued to your phone when you post a photo, counting the likes? Or are you confident in your content and how it is serving people?
Being real AF about these things is key and will help you gain clarity on how you’ve integrated social media into your life. From there you can start to form a new relationship with your platforms, which brings me to the next step…
Unfollow accounts, people and brands that don’t serve you positively. I’m all for following girls with a rad closet and an incredible booty – but if my entire newsfeed is filled with accounts like these, I’m going to be spending a lot of my time comparing myself to them and stewing in a state of lack.
This also goes for accounts that are constantly trying to sell me something. We are bombarded with a bajillion advertisements all the time – I don’t need to allow them to be part of my day if I can control it.
Follow accounts, people and brands that inspire you and motivate you to set goals and crush them. Be picky with who they are – find out what they stand for and if their message is something that is aligned with your dreams.
The human mind is crazy powerful and the subconscious is absorbing information when we don’t even realize. Make sure it’s absorbing quality content so you aren’t experiencing feelings of lack, inadequacy and overwhelm.
This sounds more difficult than it needs to be. But if you just make minor tweaks throughout the day and continue to practice them – your relationship with social media will start to change. Putting your phone on Airplane Mode and time blocking when you need to be productive or keeping your phone out of sight when visiting with a friend are good ways to start.
I understand that social media is an integral part of our society and can enhance our experience in more ways than one. And you don’t have to go full rogue to achieve some type of disconnect. But gaining control and reestablishing the use of social media in your life is an important step to achieving balance.
I would love to hear your feedback. Whether it’s just to comment on the perspective of this post or letting me know what kind of posts you would like to see – holla.